My confidence story.

I like to see my blog as somewhere that I can pour out thoughts, experiences etc.. I see it as a place where I can come back in some years time and see that I have grown in different areas not just in age.  I want to have learned more lessons and apply what I preach to my personal life.
I think my future self would want me to learn about confidence. As a young child, I have always lacked the confidence that many of my mates had.  There are many things that could have led to this but I don’t know any. As a result of this lack of confidence, I have been tagged as “the quiet girl”, ” the girl that doesn’t talk” and etc. As I grew older, I noticed that I actually lacked confidence a bit. I think one major cause would be accent barrier. Apart from that, I was just nervous and “scared” to say what I think. The scared is in quotes because it wasn’t like I was scared to talk.. It was just kinda weird. And unexplainable…lol.
A lesson that i have learned as a teenager is that you need to respect and love yourself. I have learned that if you don’t respect yourself, others would treat you as trash. If you don’t learn to speak your mind without considering what others think and all, you would probably end up being bullied for the most part of your teenage life. To be clear, I wasn’t bullied as a young child, but I knew people who were. And I noticed many of them lacked confidence. We should note that lack of confidence generally doesn’t mean low self esteem. One could have an healthy self esteem and still struggle with confidence.
Confidence is a vague word and different people have different issues but my own issue was both public speaking and interpersonal communication. I took a public speaking class and I can tell you, I don’t have much issues with public speaking now. I am considering doing an interpersonal skills class tho. Interpersonal skills would focus on our day to day lives and the issues we face. It would teach about interacting with different kinds of people.
In conclusion, I decided to do a blog post on confidence because I think the earlier we discover that our joy shouldn’t be placed on what others think of us is the earlier we would enjoy ourselves. Tbh with y’all, I am still not 100% confident at every point in time, but it is a process that I am going through and I am better than I was yesterday.
If you have ever had confidence issues, you could please share your process. Thanks.


4 thoughts on “My confidence story.

  1. Hi Ray, great post, and topic too. I may have a secret desire to do toastmasters, but am not ready to say that out loud yet! Am very mush admiring you for actually doing it. As for me, when I leave for work in the morning I say to myself “I have everything I need [to be and do whatever is asked of me.]” It’s grounding and kind of peaceful. I also share with people that I worry a lot about doing a good job. One of my bosses gave me a postcard saying “low expectations keep everybody happy” and stuck it above my computer. I used to look at it and laugh 🙂 so sharing my feelings worked out well too. Cheers, R.

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  2. Ray! I followed this blog from blogging101. I can understand your words here as I have been through similar episode. I think you should read a lot; knowledge gives you indispensable tool, which is hard to rival. next you need to enhance your conversation skill. read books by leil lowndes, they are wonderful!! Try to carry out exercise given therein. I’m sure it’ll work for you

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